dating

Where should I begin... first let me apologize for the lack of posts over the last 30 days. Like I said I have never been married, however, I do have a son that is 18 years old. Back when I was 19 and in still in law school I ended up getting this girl pregnant and she decided to keep the kid and for us not to be together and I didn't really have much say in the matter. She said she never wanted any more from me and furthermore that she was never going to tell her son who his real father was. She always told him that she was never quite sure who her real father was. Last month I got a call from her telling me that he had overdosed on heroine. I decided to fly out to Los Angeles where they live and visit him in the hospital. She told me that not allowing me in his life all this time was a big mistake and that without a male presence in his life he turned into a degenerate type of person doing crime and drugs and depressed and now almost killed himself.

So I have spent the last month or so there in LA getting to know my son as he recovered from the hospital. He was extremely surprised to meet me and the whole thing was pretty fucked up and emotional but hopefully this will give him new hope for life. Not only does he have a father figure in his life now, but he has a successful father he can look up to. I really think he is going to be able to turn his life around and I am 100% committed to helping him in any way I can including financially. He said he would like to go to college or university so I have been talking with some faculty people I know in LA about getting him to finish his high school so he can then get accepted into a school. I don't care what it takes, I am going to help him become a better person so that we can have a relationship and he can prosper.

As far as dating online goes, I pretty much put that on hold. I do have a whack of messages that have piled up inside the online dating site I am a member of but I doubt any of those women are still looking for anyone. I have noticed that once time passes people lose interest. So tonight I am going to send out a message to all the women that have been messaging me and tell them the story of my son and what has happened and see if any of them can relate to my story and see if any of them are still interested in going out with me. I have a lot of catchup work to do. I have been having interns and junior lawyers handle all my business since I have been gone and tomorrow I am going back to work for the first time and I am going to find out how much work I need to do and what fires need to be put out. I will update this blog again soon with more info on my dating life, I know this other stuff may not be of interest to you but I feel better having someone to talk to - even if it is just text on a screen.

On Sunday I went out with this woman named Roberta. I bet a lot of your are thinking wow that is not a very attractive name and if I told you I was setting you up on a blind date with a woman named Roberta you would be like no way man. Well the opposite couldn't be more true. She is one of the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life, let along actually gone out with on a date. She is 34 and she is a translator. She is fluent in 6 different languages so she gets a lot of work doing translation for high end clients like law firms, politicians, and the entertainment industry. I know I said in my previous post that I was going to try and think of something creative to do for a date vs the regular take a girl out to a restaurant date but sorry I failed on that one and we ended up at a restaurant afterall.

I took her to this place called Zealous Restaurant which is one of my favorites. It is fine dining and they really do things up amazing there. She seemed unimpressed by the place so I guess she has been to lots of fancy places before. I know she makes good money for the work that she does. We had a very interesting conversation over dinner and things didn't seem to relaxed. She talked a lot about her job, well because I was asking her lots of questions about herself and what she did. I spent some time talking about my job etc but I didn't get into too much detail because divorce is not the bets topic on a first date. The food was excellent as usual and so was the service.

We left that restaurant around 9pm and headed over to this place called 955 Fulton Lounge so that we could just chill on a couch and I could put my arm around her and sip a cocktail and listen to some cool chilled lounge music. That is exactly what happened and it was a really cool vibe and cool place. We chilled there until about midnight and then we left in a taxi to go to her place. She invited me up and so I up I went. We were both standing in front of her liquor cabinet and she asked me what I wanted? I replied "you" and then touched her face with my hand and kissed her passionately. She tasted so good it was amazing and she smelled really good too and so did her place. We made out on the couch a bit and then eventually I left and called a taxi and rode the way home with a big grin.

Hi everyone, sorry it has taken so long since my last post but like I said I have been busy as hell over the last couple weeks. My caseload is so high that I am considering hiring an assistant. The firm has offered before to get me an assistant but I am trying really hard to make partner and I don't want them to see me using the assistant as a crutch. I want them to know how hard of a worker I am and that I don't need to rely on other people to get my job done.

Let me tell you about how things are going with the redhead search. I have heard back from 5 of the original 7 redheads I messaged a few weeks ago and this morning I combed through the online dating site and I found a few more potential redheads so I sent them off messages, we will see how that goes.

Out of the 5 redheads, only 3 of them are natural redheads but one of the ones that isn't is soooooooo hot I am not sure I care anymore about the redhead thing. She is so hot though I bet she is getting messages from tons of guys and I am sure I am up against a lot of stiff competition. I have been so busy with work I have not been sending messages back and forth with these girls as often as I think I should be. I don't want them to lose interest or to meet some other guy they like better because so far all 3 of them seem to like me.

I am talking to all 3 of them on msn and I know they all are anxious to meet me and now that I have some more free time on my hands I am going to setup some dates with them but I want to try and think of something unique and creative vs just taking them out to a restaurant or a bar or a lounge. I am going to spend some time today googling date ideas etc and I will let you know what I come up with.

Happy New Year all. I hope you all had a great holiday and I hope you all made some new years resolutions. I personally made a resolution to make sure that I am targeting the right kind of girls this time around. With that being said, I decided not to talk to that girl Rachel anymore. She is just too confusing and last week I was reading that relationships should be simple. Also I decided that I want to date a redhead.

This morning I searched through the online dating site and I messaged 7 different redheads. I am not sure if they are all real redheads or if some of them have dyed their hair. I only want to date the girls who have real red hair. It is too hard to tell if they dyed their hair because girls can dye their eyebrows as well then it gets really hard to tell.

These redheads that I messaged are a wide variety of ages. Some of them are in their early twenties, some of them are in their late twenties and some of them are in their thirties. I even messaged one woman who is 41 but she looks really hot. I expect to get some messages coming in pretty soon from these women.

I really hate the holidays because whenever I get back to work after them I am always backlogged and then I get a whole bunch of new cases. This happens because a lot of people will decide to get a divorce in the early part of the new year. They do this because during xmas and shit they don't want to upset their children so they agree to wait until after the holidays so their kids can still enjoy one last time together. Also lots of people create new years resolutions and getting a divorce is a common one. I will update more as the new messages come in and I have something interesting to report.

The amount of girls I meet online is ridiculous. Perhaps I should not have put in anything about me being a lawyer etc because I think that is the main reason I get so many inquiries online. I like to think that I am a decent looking guy, but I got a feeling that that is not the reason for all the inquiries. I guess everyone is looking for security and money is important. So far, I have not dated any weird ethnicity girls yet. I have pretty much stuck to white girls but now I am thinking I should branch out and give some of these other girls a chance... wow that sounded so conceited lol. Anyways, I went through all my requests and I selected 6 girls who I normally would not ever go out with. I haven't had much luck with white women yet in terms of trying to find someone I am compatible with so why not... lets give it a shot and see how it goes. The first girl is named Maria and she is latin. I'm not sure exactly from where, but she has olive skin and dark hair etc. She is lean but she has some nice curves, like all latin girls do. In her profile pictures she is wearing skin tight pants - big shocker there lol. So my plan is to go on a date with each of these 6 girls and if I have no success than I am going back to nothing but white girls lol. So I am going to take her out for dinner tomorrow night and I am not sure if I should take her to Charlie Trotter's on Armitage Ave. or if I should take her to Brazzaz on Dearborn St. Both of them are high end places, but I think I might go with Trotter's because I doubt that is the kind of food that she is used to and I want to see how she behaves outside of her comfort zone. I will probably take her over to 404 Wine Bar since we are going to be in the Lincoln Park Area. I will let you guys know how it goes